Here is a great, short, pithy post by Steve Sjogren.
Growing Edge Buzz: Some people shouldn't go to church, pt. 1: Crabby is not a fruit of the Spirit: "After following Jesus for over 30 years now, I have come to the conclusion that there are some people who do great damage to the cause of Christ because they continue to come to church week after week. I have no idea what they are hearing in their various churches, but their behavior, based on what is on display in the restaurants they frequent immediately after their church experience, is exactly the opposite of the attitude of Jesus as described in the Gospels.
...In our day, as in his day, we have placed so much emphasis on correct beliefs, that correct living has been nearly completely overlooked. Yet Jesus made it very clear that true spirituality isn’t just belief, but lifestyle. “When I was thirsty you gave me drink, when I was hungry you gave me to eat, when I was lonely you visited me…” Seeing a need and meeting it. No smugness. No “better than” attittitude. "Crabby" is not a Fruit of the Spirit."