Why do Christians look intolerant to the people around them?
I believe it is because many feel they have to lead with their beliefs. They feel they have to "take a stand" against sin. They feel that demonstrating love to their homosexual, or alcoholic, or abortion having, or premarital sex having neighbors, without condemning those actions first, somehow means they accept all the persons behavior as legitimate.
I Hate Looking Intolerant: "Q. I feel like if I say homosexuality and abortion are sins, non-Christians think I am intolerant and jerky. What can I do about these beliefs that offend some people?
A. What can you do? Follow the example of Jesus..."
Why do we have to tell others WHAT we believe to be wrong before we show them God's love? Why can't we build relationships with people, show them God's love, and care for them as people without regard to their sinful practices (Lord, knows most of us have enough of our own to deal with!)? Why can't the holiness of our lives be the statement against their sinful behaviors? Why can't we speak up when GOD says it is time?
Why do we lead with LAW rather than lead with LOVE?